Purpose Vs Pleasure
RIP Grandad
Welcome back!
Sadly, my Grandad passed away this week.
I feel a little bit lost, sad and lonely. I feel so upset for my Nan who has been left without her husband and my Dad, who is now without his father.
But he died at home after experiencing no pain for a week and passed away peacefully in his sleep.
I'm grateful for the times I spent with him and the things I learned from him.
As I've said before, it is now time to keep his memory and legacy alive, and not forget about him or escape reality to escape these feelings.
If you've lost someone recently; celebrate their life, don’t forget it.
Talk about them often.
Reminisce about the times you spent together.
Relay some of the lessons they taught you to your own children.
Keep them at the forefront of your mind because believe me, when you don’t, and you suppress the pain of losing someone with drink, drugs and the casual pursuits of pleasure, you begin to forget them - which is devastating.
Purpose Vs Pleasure
When you experience loss, it is inevitable that you will question your own life.
Are you living it the way you would want? Are you where you expected to be? Are you living in a manner that would make the person you just lost proud of you?
What is your purpose?
This is something I have been questioning since my Grandfather passed. What exactly am I doing here?
I guess my main answer would be; to be the best father possible.
But as another person I loved gets taken from me, it’s easy to fall into the trap of foregoing purpose for the sake of cheap pleasure, especially as a means to escape.
When I lost my Mum, I turned to booze, drugs and women.
I couldn’t face the pain of losing her. We were so close. So I blocked out the pain with pleasurable past-times that prevented my path to my purpose.
You may feel the same. You may feel like you’ve lost sight of your purpose in life because you’ve chosen to chase quick pleasures.
The loneliness and vulnerability that you feel when you lose someone you love, may cause you to isolate and turn to substances or digital distractions instead of going to the opposite route of striving towards your purpose as a tribute to those who have passed away.
This escapism can lead to suicidal thoughts manifesting, especially in a mind with no purpose. In a mind that has given up on pursuing a life of purpose and which is not interested in preserving the legacy, they may have been building.
This escapism mindset is natural but counterproductive.
It takes you away from the path you were on.. or should be on.
You need to find your purpose and escape the confines of your own self-imprisonment.
Conclusion
I know this is a shorter article newsletter today, but to be honest, I’m struggling to combat my own feelings of escapism. I’m struggling not to take the pleasure route despite knowing that the path of purpose is the best option.
I’ve eaten badly this week. I’ve skipped on the positive habits I’ve formed and I’ve chosen to watch old Family Guy episodes after late nights at work instead of getting proper sleep and rest.
But by purposefully writing this down, for you guys to read, I’ve chosen not to wallow any longer. I want to do my Grandad proud. I want him to see the positive choices I am making in order to extend his legacy to my own son and to use what I’ve learned from him to guide my son through life, giving him the best chance at living his life with purpose and reaching his potential.
“It's not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it. When it's spent on no good activity, we're forced at last by death’s final constraint to realise that it has passed away before we knew it was passing. Life is long if you know how to use it.”
- Seneca
A life with no purpose is a life not fully lived.
Thank you for reading “Purpose Vs Pleasure”.
Check out the previous newsletter; “Simple Gratitude”.
Rest in Peace Grandad.
Take care,
Roscoe
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